Step 3
Let’s expand a bit on each item you don’t like (column B). What is it that gripes you? What is causing the frustration? For example, as one of my client’s recently complained “I hate it that my boss always comes in at noon. The day is half over!” OK, now why is it that this bothers you? Do you want support in the morning, and s/he is unavailable?
Do you have to take on more work because s/he’s not there to respond to urgent requests in a different time zone? Are you annoyed, because when you’re trying to go home, your boss is just getting rolling and wants to ‘bend your ear’ about what’s going on at 5pm instead of 10am?
You may be thinking “Wait a minute. I thought a coach would have me think about everything positive, not focus on the negative!” Until we put down on paper our frustrations, it’s some times hard to see and move beyond them.
Step 4
Simultaneously on the ‘What I like’ sheet of paper do this same exercise.
What is it about the flexible hours that you really like? That this gives you time to be with your son in the evening? That you can take time off to attend important events and make up the hours at another time during the week?
This week, objectively track in column A what causes you tension and column B look inside and describe why it is bothering you, as well as what you like and why you like it.
~ Gwyneth Anne~
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